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The Travails of Aging and Dying

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Suffering is inherent to life. It becomes even more glaring as you start aging. As you become older, you witness the people around you start disappearing. You begin to hear about the death of your friends and enemies, people you grew up with loving and quarreling. Your loved ones start to disappear one by one. The movie actors you admired, the singers and musicians you liked, begin to fade into oblivion and become history. You may remember them occasionally when you watch old movies or listen to the music of your younger days. The world you grew up in is already dead, and the one which replaced it does not make much sense to you. By then, you grow up to understand human nature so well and see the masks, hidden intentions, and ritual behavior people habitually indulge in that you may not like interacting with most of them or feeling comfortable around them

Everyone in every generation experience this. Time does not stop for you—neither does the world. You might have run for a long time to keep pace with it and keep yourself abreast of the changing and evolving phenomena, but at some point, you become tired and give up fighting what cannot be prevented. You might have tested all possibilities to prove yourself or your self-worth or achieve something in life to cherish those memories and feel good about yourself. Whether you succeeded or not, compromised with your values and beliefs to fit into the world, in the end, you will realize that it did not deliver much of what it promised to, and you are just another human being, vulnerable to the same vagaries of life and Nature.

Aging reminds you of life’s impermanence, vulnerabilities, and precarious existence. Whether you are a billionaire or an average person, exceptionally successful or a significant failure, Nature will not spare you from the pain of aging, sickness, and death. It sweeps away everything quickly to clear the space for new life. It is the truth. We cannot fight the process of life or aging and dying, and it is better to live with that awareness and enjoy the blessings we can still count on. We create our dramas between birth and death and want everyone we know to be a part of it and enjoy it and fulfill our need for love, security, and belongingness, knowing well that in the end, all that is in vain; each is to his own, and life has no meaningful purpose other than what we assume it to be.

Yet, despite the suffering and the gloom, every life is worth living and a precious opportunity to experience the beauty and the mystery of the universe and be a part of it. Imagine the odds of you taking birth in this world as a self-aware, intelligent being and going through all the drama that unfolds before you and the love, hate, happiness, sorrow, honor, dishonor, friendship, and enmity that you experience until your last breath. Maybe, it is what life is for, to let Nature distill all our experiences and store them somewhere for evaluation and further improvement.